If you haven’t figured it our by now, 2020 is the year to transitions. From the start we have been thrust into a never-ending cycle of change. Our patience, compassion, understanding, and endurance are being challenged at every turn. Some of us are fairing better than others, but we are all going to feel the weight of this year for some time. Yet, for me, the takeaway is simply: Plans Change.

As a chronic planner, I have struggled to feel productive. I began twenty-twenty by binding my Hearts Breathing Planner in a disc-bound system. I took care to print the pages on thirty-two pound paper so my various pens didn’t ruin the two-sided pages. I order functional writing stickers and set my intentions.

Still, my planner has remained blank, sans a few feeble attempts to get my shit together. I’m spending an exorbitant amount of time trying to process the day-to-day, which has left little energy to do so much as a brain-dump. The full-weight of my failure-to-plan can be measured in increased levels of anxiety.

I’m trying to remember that plans change and that’s Okay! I’m spending an exorbitant amount of time trying to process the day-to-day so I need to keep things simple. Write in pencil or keep correction tape near.

Anxiety looks different on everyone. On me it’s nervous ticks, scratching, nail biting, skin picking, and rocking. I am restless and exhausted, emotional and overwhelmed. And did I mention I’ve been unable to focus? Work has suffered. Relationships with myself and with others have been tested. And there seems to be no end in site. In addition to a meds adjustment, I’ve had to change my attitude.

So I’ve set three rules for myself, each of which is directly related to the notion that “Plans Change.”

1. Nothing is written in stone.

From White Out to washi tape, there are many ways to cover-up a mistake. Use them. That means it’s Okay if my planner looks like I am always a day behind. Reschedule as need because nothing is written in stone.

2. Add things to your to-do list.

Seriously. Somethings something comes up and they are more important than something you’ve previously added. That’s fine. Add the new task to the list and cross it off. Make a conscious effort to cross this item off the list to remind yourself that you get shit done.

3. Every day is another chance.

Sometimes, there is no list. I’ve forgotten to create a list. Sometimes I let things off my list. But I am convinced that we created time to allow ourselves a reason to try again. It makes sense; starting over is a great motivator.

I will focus heavily on these three lessons as we go into the US Presidential Election, and the holidays.

What lesson are you learning in 2020?